FHE LessonsLessons and ideas for family home evening!

A Plan for Spiritual Security

One of the blessings of the restored Church is living prophets. President Harold B. Lee (1899–1973) had a beautifully clear understanding of priorities. He taught, “Much of what we do organizationally [in the Church] … is scaffolding, as we seek to build the individual, and we must not mistake the scaffolding for the soul.”²

President Lee was not minimizing the role of the Church in the salvation of men, women, and families. Rather, he taught powerfully that the core of the gospel of Jesus Christ is individuals, families, and homes, which the Church functions to support.³ The Church, therefore, is the scaffolding with which we build eternal families.

I belong to a branch of the Wing family tree. Members of the Wing family still own the oldest home built in New England that has stayed in the same family. It is called the Old Fort House. It was the home of Stephen Wing and his family after they arrived in America about 1635.

The nucleus of the house was constructed for protection. Its walls are two feet (0.6 m) thick, made of hewn oak trunks driven into the ground to form the typical construction of a New England garrison. It has two separate walls. The space in between was filled with sandstone for protection against arrows and bullets. The fort was the center of the home. As the Wing family grew, it added onto the sides of the original fort house. But the fort remained their protection, their safe haven.

Perhaps each of us should consider building structures for our spiritual security that are free from the influences of the world—places where we can protect and teach family members how to meet the challenges of a world that is always threatening core gospel values. I prefer to be optimistic, so I continue to hope for positive change in the world. But I’m also a realist, so I form a contingency plan in case positive changes don’t come. My contingency plan for spiritual security must account for all the content—both good and evil—that is being pushed through various media. Where do I look to learn about how to build such a contingency plan for the spiritual security of my family? I look to the Church—the scaffolding with which I build an eternal family.

There are two principal reasons I appreciate President Lee’s metaphor for the Church as scaffolding for our eternal families. First, it helps me understand what the Church is. Second, and equally important, I understand what the Church is not.

The Church as scaffolding is perhaps best represented by a statement the Prophet Joseph Smith made about his role as the leader of the Church. He said, “I teach them correct principles, and they govern themselves.”⁴Eternal principles are the scaffolding the Church provides. These eternal principles are embedded in the doctrines of the kingdom of God and are reflected in His eternal plan of happiness. We meet as members of the Church to teach and learn from each other the principles of righteousness and to receive saving ordinances so the scaffolding is steady and stable as we build our eternal families.

Notice that the Church is not meant to do the work of parents; rather, it guides the work of parents. The Church offers an eternal form. As builders of eternal families, we are reassured by promises that if we build according to this eternal form, our efforts can provide the safety and protection we seek for those we love most.

Our challenge is to use the Church as scaffolding to build a family that is as spiritually strong or stronger than the Old Fort House is physically strong. How do we do this?

The Importance of Traditions

I believe family traditions are like the hewn oak trunks driven into the ground to build the Old Fort House. Make the honoring of family traditions—holiday traditions, birthday traditions, Sunday traditions, dinnertime traditions—and the development of new ones a priority throughout your lives. Honor them, write them down, and make certain you follow them. Studies show that the reason young people join gangs is for the tradition and ritual of belonging to something larger than self. That is what a family should be. Be certain you are creating a rich environment in which your family can look forward to special times of the year when traditions hold you together as a great eternal family unit.

Understand that this is neither a simple nor an easy solution. Just as Rome was not built in a day, neither are family traditions. Family traditions can offer basic and lasting support, but there’s a lot that must be built around them. Perhaps family traditions work only when they create a role for every member of the family and when there is united effort to build them. This means family members need to spend time together and learn how to work together. When it comes to families, there is no such thing as quality time without a certain quantity of time.

When you consider employment, for example, reflect on how much time a job will demand of you each day. Is it one that will keep you working 14 hours a day and prevent you from arriving home until after your children are in bed? I’m not suggesting such employment opportunities are out of bounds, but if you choose them, you must find creative ways to remain connected to your family. The scaffolding of the Church will help remind you of your eternal priorities.

For my career I selected retail business. Our stores were open six days a week from 10:00 in the morning until 10:00 at night. My normal workday was at least 10 hours, sometimes 12 to 15. I had to be very careful to have time for my children, and I believe that seeing the Church as scaffolding continuously reminded me of my eternal priorities.

For example, I involved all of my children in part-time jobs at our stores. My oldest daughter used to come in and update sales figures so that my reporting was always current and I could make year-over-year comparisons. I had my son work in accounts payable during the summer. I taught my youngest daughter how to run a cash register so she could be a part-time cashier. This gave us the opportunity to see each other during the day, have lunch together several days a week, and spend precious one-on-one time together. The best time together was during the daily commute to and from work.

Scaffolding for Our Professional Lives

I also believe the Church can provide scaffolding for our professional lives. As members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we represent the Savior and His Church. For us, being as good as someone else from another church is not good enough. President George Albert Smith (1870–1951) taught this lesson when he said:

“Within the last year, I have had the privilege of meeting and conversing on the gospel with some men who live in this community [Salt Lake City], not members of our Church. One man had resided here for twenty years, a man whose life is above reproach, a good citizen, a splendid businessman, one who has kindly feelings towards our people. He told me that he had … come to the conclusion that we were just as good as our neighbors who are members of other churches; he could not see any difference in us.

“I want to say to you, my brethren and sisters, that is no compliment to me. If the gospel of Jesus Christ does not make me a better man, then I have not developed as I should, and if our neighbors not in this Church can live among us from year to year and see no evidence of the benefits that come from keeping the commandments of God in our lives, then there is need for reform in Israel.”⁵

A member of the Church who is worthy of a temple recommend should always stand out in whatever professional circles he or she belongs to. Dare to be different. Never worry about offending others by living up to the standards of the Church. I promise you that living up to temple recommend standards will bless and never hurt you in any situation in which you may find yourself.

Reflecting the Savior’s Light

As I read and watch the news each day, I am shocked at the difficulties we are creating for ourselves. As times and conditions change and become more complex, there seem to be fewer and fewer individuals capable of shouldering the responsibilities of leading positive change. I issue a challenge to you who are leaders and future leaders to recognize that the world is changing rapidly. There is an urgent need for leaders capable and bold enough to take on the immense challenges that face us today.

The moral foundation of a strong Judeo-Christian tradition appears to be eroding in the United States and in other nations. This tradition was based on justice, compassion, and respect for human dignity. It was not based on laws and regulations but on the Light of Christ in every good and decent citizen.

The number of people who subscribe to these beliefs and values is dwindling, but you and I remain true. We have covenanted with the Savior to represent Him. By representing Jesus Christ and reflecting the Light of Christ in our lives, we can help many of our brothers and sisters remember their Judeo-Christian traditions and heritage.

We must be bold in our declarations and testimony of the divinity of Jesus Christ. We want others to know that we believe He is the central figure in all human history. His life and teachings are the heart of theBible and the other books we consider to be holy scriptures. The Old Testament sets the stage for Christ’s mortal ministry. The New Testament describes His mortal ministry. The Book of Mormon gives us a second witness of His mortal ministry. He came to earth to declare His gospel as a foundation for all mankind so that all of God’s children could learn about Him and His teachings. He then gave His life in order to be our Savior and Redeemer. Only through Jesus Christ is salvation possible. This is why we believe He is the central figure in all human history. Our eternal destiny is always in His hands. It is a glorious thing to believe in Him and accept Him as our Savior, our Lord, and our Master.

Remember all that the Church has done, is doing, and can do for you and your family. And remember that this is not just any other church; it is the restored Church of Jesus Christ.

Cinnamon Pretzels

Ingredients:

Activity

1-Have a family testimony meeting.

2- Write down your testimony now and then write it down again in a year.

3- I Know the Book of Mormon is True Hidden Picture.

Scripture

President James E Faust

“Tithing is a principle that is fundamental to the personal happiness and well-being of the Church members worldwide, both rich and poor. Tithing is a principle of sacrifice and a key to the opening of the windows of heaven.”

Hymn

I’m Glad to Pay a Tithing – Primary Songbook #150 or Do What is Right - Hymn #237

I’m Glad to Pay a Tithing

1. My Heav’nly Father gives me all good and lovely things:
The sun that shines, the rain that falls, the meadowlark that sings.

2. I’m glad to pay a tithing, one-tenth of all I earn;
It’s little when I think of all God gives me in return.

Caramel Thumbprints

Yields 26 Servings

Ingredients:

Activity

1- Make & decorate a Tithing Jar.

2- Take a trip to one of the locations tithing pays for & walk around (ie. church building, stake center or temple). Enjoy the beauty and blessings from tithing

3- Practice calculating 10% with several objects (ie candy, toys, money).

Scripture

Alma 29:1

1 O that I were an angel, and could have the wish of mine heart, that I might go forth and speak with the trump of God, with a voice to shake the earth, and cry repentance unto every people!

Hymn

  I Want to Be a Missionary Now – Primary Songbook #168 or - Called to Serve Hymn #249

I Want to Be a Missionary Now

1. I want to be a missionary now.
I don’t want to wait until I’m grown.
I want to share the gospel while I’m young,
For I have a testimony of my own.

2. I want to tell my friends about our church
And the happiness it brings to me.
I’ll tell them how the gospel was restored,
Tell them how the Book of Mormon came to be.

3. Then I can be a missionary now.
I don’t have to wait until I’m grown.
I’ll live each day the best that I know how,
And they’ll see I have a testimony of my own,
A testimony of my very own.

Why don’t you play sports or go to birthday parties on Sundays?

One of God’s commandments is “Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.” Instead of going to parties or sports games, I keep the Sabbath day holy by going to church, spending time with my family, and serving Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ.

Why can’t you watch certain TV shows and movies or play certain video games?

I try to only watch and play things that make me feel good inside. Things with bad language, violence, and immodesty don’t give me a good feeling, so I stay away from them.

Why don’t you drink tea or coffee?

Being healthy is important to me. My church teaches me to not take coffee, tea, alcohol, or anything else that might hurt my body.

Why don’t you wear short skirts or shirts that have spaghetti straps?

When I dress modestly, I feel like I am respecting the body Heavenly Father gave me.

Why don’t you swear?

I try to only say things that will make me and other people feel good. Swearing would make me feel bad about myself, and I’d make others feel bad too.

Courage Needed

“Courage is the word we need to hear and hold near our hearts—courage to turn our backs on temptation, courage to lift up our voices in testimony to all whom we meet, remembering that everyone must have an opportunity to hear the message.”

Blessings and Happiness

“We are blessed with so very much. And yet it is sometimes difficult to view the problems and permissiveness around us and not become discouraged. I have found that, rather than dwelling on the negative, if we will take a step back and consider the blessings in our lives, including seemingly small, sometimes overlooked blessings, we can find greater happiness.”

Prayers Heard and Answered

“Our prayers are heard and answered. We are familiar with the truth found in 2 Nephi in the Book of Mormon: ‘Men are, that they might have joy’ (2 Nephi 2:25). I testify that much of that joy comes as we recognize that we can communicate with our Heavenly Father through prayer and that those prayers will be heard and answered—perhaps not how and when we expected they would be answered, but they will be answered and by a Heavenly Father who knows and loves us perfectly and who desires our happiness. Hasn’t He promised us, ‘Be thou humble; and the Lord thy God shall lead thee by the hand, and give thee answer to thy prayers’ (D&C 112:10)? …

“… Our Heavenly Father is aware of our needs and will help us as we call upon Him for assistance. I believe that no concern of ours is too small or insignificant. The Lord is in the details of our lives.”

Guidance of the Spirit

“The Lord’s purposes are often accomplished as we pay heed to the guidance of the Spirit. I believe that the more we act upon the inspiration and impressions which come to us, the more the Lord will entrust to us His errands.

“I have learned, as I have mentioned in previous messages, never to postpone a prompting. …

“The opportunity to be a blessing in the life of another often comes unexpectedly.”

Loving Kindness

“May we ever watch over one another, assisting in times of need. Let us not be critical and judgmental, but let us be tolerant, ever emulating the Savior’s example of loving-kindness. In that vein, may we willingly serve one another. May we pray for the inspiration to know of the needs of those around us, and then may we go forward and provide assistance.”

 Pumpkin Cake Roll

Ingredients:

Activity

1- Write a letter to a missionary serving from your family or from your ward or branch.

2- Place several strips of paper in a bowl with different gospel topics on each strip of paper. Take picking a strip of paper and explaining the gospel topic on the paper. Continue until all gospel topics on the papers have been explained.

3- Look on the church website about requirements to serve a mission. Set specific goals on how to prepare.

Scripture

D&C 1:11

11 Wherefore the voice of the Lord is unto the ends of the earth, that all that will hear may hear:

Hymn

  The Prophet Said to Plant a Garden – Primary Songbook #237 or How Firm a Foundation - Hymn #85

The Prophet Said to Plant a Garden

1. The prophet said to plant a garden, so that’s what we’ll do.
For God has given rich brown soil, the rain and sunshine too.
And if we plant the seeds just right and tend them carefully,
Before we know, good things will grow to feed our family.

2. We’ll plant the seeds to fill our needs, then plant a few to spare,
And show we love our neighbors with the harvest that we share.
Oh, won’t you plant a garden, too, and share the many joys
A garden brings in health and love to happy girls and boys!

 Rolos Cake Mix Bars

Ingredients:

Activity

1- Play Follow the Leader.

2- Set up & go through an obstacle course.

3- Play the “I’m going on a picnic game...” but use this phrase instead: “I went to General Conference & I brought….”

Scripture

D & C 1:38

38 What I the Lord have spoken, I have spoken, and I excuse not myself; and though the heavens and the earth pass away, my word shall not pass away, but shall all be fulfilled, whether by mine own voice or by the voice of my servants, it is the same.

Hymn

  Follow the Prophet - Primary Songbook #110 or Come, Listen to a Prophet’s Voice - Hymn #21

Follow the Prophet

1. Adam was a prophet, first one that we know.
In a place called Eden, he helped things to grow.
Adam served the Lord by following his ways.
We are his descendants in the latter days.

2. Enoch was a prophet; he taught what was good.
People in his city did just what they should.
When they were so righteous that there was no sin,
Heav’nly Father took them up to live with him.

3. Noah was a prophet called to preach the word,
Tried to cry repentance, but nobody heard.
They were busy sinning—Noah preached in vain.
They wished they had listened when they saw the rain.

4. Abraham the prophet prayed to have a son,
So the Lord sent Isaac as the chosen one.
Isaac begat Jacob, known as Israel;
Jacob’s sons were twelve tribes, so the Bible tells.

5. Moses was a prophet sent to Israel.
He would lead them to the promised land to dwell.
They were slow to follow, or so it appears.
They were in the wilderness for forty years.

6. Samuel was a prophet chosen as a boy.
Hannah promised God her son would serve with joy.
In the tabernacle, Samuel heard his name;
He was called by God and answered, “Here I am!”

7. Jonah was a prophet, tried to run away,
But he later learned to listen and obey.
When we really try, the Lord won’t let us fail:
That’s what Jonah learned deep down inside the whale.

8. Daniel was a prophet. He refused to sin;
So the king threw Daniel in the lion’s den.
Angels calmed the lions, and the king soon saw
Daniel’s pow’r was great, for he obeyed God’s law.

9. Now we have a world where people are confused.
If you don’t believe it, go and watch the news.
We can get direction all along our way,
If we heed the prophets—follow what they say.

Chorus
Follow the prophet, follow the prophet,
Follow the prophet; don’t go astray.
Follow the prophet, follow the prophet,
Follow the prophet; he knows the way.

1. Members of the Church are entitled to personal revelation as they listen to and study the inspired words spoken at general conference.

As you prepare for general conference, I invite you to ponder questions you need to have answered. For example, you might yearn for direction and guidance by the Lord regarding challenges you are facing.

Answers to your specific prayers may come directly from a particular talk or from a specific phrase. At other times answers may come in a seemingly unrelated word, phrase, or song. A heart filled with gratitude for the blessings of life and an earnest desire to hear and follow the words of counsel will prepare the way for personal revelation.

2. Don’t discount a message merely because it sounds familiar.

Prophets have always taught by repetition; it is a law of learning. You will hear repetition in themes and doctrines in general conference. Let me reassure you: this is not due to a lack of creativity or imagination. We continue to hear messages on similar issues because the Lord is teaching and impressing upon our minds and hearts certain foundational principles of great eternal importance that must be understood and acted upon before we can move on to other things. A wise builder first lays the foundation before erecting the walls and the roof.

3. The words spoken at general conference should be a compass that points the way for us during the coming months.

If we listen to and follow the promptings of the Spirit, they will serve as a Liahona, guiding us through the unknown, challenging valleys and mountains that are ahead (see 1 Nephi 16).

Since the world began, God has raised up prophets who speak the will of heaven to the people of their times. It is our responsibility to listen and then apply the messages the Lord provides for us.

Our merciful and loving Heavenly Father has not forsaken and will not forsake His children. Today, as well as in times past, He has appointed apostles and prophets. He continues to reveal His word to them.

What a marvelous privilege it is to hear God’s messages for each of us during general conference! Let us prepare well for this great blessing of divine guidance delivered by His chosen servants.

For this is no ordinary blessing.

1. Preheat oven to 350º F. Grease 12 muffin cups.

2. Combine sugar, butter and water in medium microwave-safe bowl. Microwave on HIGH (100%) power for 1 minute or until butter is melted. Add semi-sweet morsels; stir until melted. Add egg and vanilla extract and stir well. Add flour and baking soda and stir until blended. Allow to cool to room temperature. Stir in 1 cup Swirled morsels. Spoon a heaping tablespoon batter into each prepared muffin cup.

3. Bake for 13 to 15 minutes or until top is set and wooden pick inserted center comes out still slightly wet. Place muffin pan on wire rack. Centers of brownies will fall upon cooling. If some do not, with back of teaspoon, tap center to make a hole.

4. Place peanut butter in small, microwave-safe bowl. Microwave on HIGH (100%) power for 45 seconds; stir. While brownies are still hot, spoon a scant tablespoon peanut butter into center of each brownie. Top with remaining Swirled morsels. Cool completely in pan on wire rack. Run a knife around edge and carefully remove from pan. (Taken from Very Best Baking)

 Chocolate Chip Cream Cheese Cookies

15 Servings

Ingredients:

Activity

1- Invite a friend or family to listen to a session of General Conference.

2- Do a General Conference Activity.

3- Play Telephone.

Scripture

Alma 29:1

1 O that I were an angel, and could have the wish of mine heart, that I might go forth and speak with the trump of God, with a voice to shake the earth, and cry repentance to every people!

Hymn

 I Hope They Call Me on a Mission - Primary Songbook #169 or  High on the Mountain Top - Hymn #5

I Hope They Call Me on a Mission

1. I hope they call me on a mission
When I have grown a foot or two.
I hope by then I will be ready
To teach and preach and work as missionaries do.

2. I hope that I can share the gospel
With those who want to know the truth.
I want to be a missionary
And serve and help the Lord while I am in my youth.

1. Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F. Butter a 9-by-13-inch rectangular pan.

2. Mix together the butter, flour, oats, brown sugar, baking powder and salt. Press half the oat mixture into the prepared pan. Spread with the strawberry preserves. Sprinkle the other half of the oat mixture over the top and pat lightly. Bake until light brown, 30 to 40 minutes. Let cool completely, and then cut into squares.

 Lemon Crisps

42 Servings

Ingredients:

Scripture

D&C 18:10-14

10 – Remember the worth of souls is great in the sight of God;

11 – For, behold, the Lord your Redeemer suffered death in the flesh; wherefore he suffered the pain of all men, that all men might repent and come unto him.

12 – And he hath risen again from the dead, that he might bring all men unto him, on conditions of repentance.

13 – And how great is his joy in the soul that repenteth!

14 – Wherefore, you are called to cry repentance unto this people.

Hymn

Repentance- Primary Songbook #98 or Come Unto Jesus – Hymn #117

“I am sorry” is not always easy to say
When I know I’ve been thoughtless and done something wrong.
I’ll try to repent, to do better, to pray
That Heavenly Father will help me be strong.

Lesson

*For Younger Children* Read “Making Things Right” (Friend, April 2012). Discuss the story. Testify of the power of Repentance.

 Read or retell “Making Things Right” (Friend, April 2012).

Making Things Right

“I need to tell you something, Mom,” Melissa said, looking at the floor. She took a deep breath and started to cry.

“My teacher is really mad because someone wrote on the bathroom wall,” Melissa said. “I know I shouldn’t have done it, but someone else started writing and I thought it was funny, so I did too. I feel so bad inside. What can I do?”

Mom gave Melissa a hug and pointed to a picture on the shelf. It was taken on the day Melissa was baptized. “Do remember what Uncle Brett talked about at your baptism?”

Sniffling, Melissa nodded. “That the Holy Ghost can help us know what is right and wrong,” she said. “He said if I did something wrong I would get a bad feeling. Is this what he was talking about?”

“Yes,” Mom said. “What else did he say?”

Melissa thought for a moment. “When we mess up we can repent by asking for forgiveness and fixing what we did wrong,” she said. “And promising to never do it again.”

As Melissa said those words, she knew what she needed to do.

Before the school bell rang the next morning, Melissa was at her teacher’s desk.

“Mrs. O’Dell, I wrote on the bathroom wall,” Melissa said, her heart pounding. “I’m really sorry, and I will clean it up.”

Mrs. O’Dell looked at Melissa for a moment. “You’ll have to stay after school to clean it,” she said. “And you need to tell your mother what you have done.”

“I know, I already told her. I promise to never do anything like this again,” Melissa said.

Melissa smiled as she walked to her desk. The bad feeling she had yesterday was gone.

Discuss the following questions after reading the story.

• Why did Melissa feel bad inside?
• What did Melissa’s mom remind her about?
• What does the Holy Ghost help us to know?
• Can we do anything if we mess up?
• What did Melissa decide to do?

Testify of the power of Repentance

*For Teenagers or Adults* Read “Repentance and Conversion”, from April 2007 General Conference. Discuss the talk given by Elder Nelson and it’s meaning to your family. Testify of the power of Repentance.

Read “Repentance and Conversion”, a talk given by Elder Russell M. Nelson in April 2007.

Repentance and Conversion 

Russell M. Nelson

Last year while Elder David S. Baxter and I were driving to a stake conference, we stopped at a restaurant. Later when returning to our car, we were approached by a woman who called out to us. We were startled by her appearance. Her grooming (or lack of it) was what I might politely call “extreme.” She asked if we were elders in the Church. We said yes. Almost unrestrained, she told the story of her tragic life, swamped in sin. Now, only 28 years old, she was miserable. She felt worthless, with nothing to live for. As she spoke, the sweetness of her soul began to emerge. Pleading tearfully, she asked if there was any hope for her, any way up and out of her hopelessness.

“Yes,” we responded, “there is hope. Hope is linked to repentance. You can change. You can ‘come unto Christ, and be perfected in him.’”  We urged her not to procrastinate. She sobbed humbly and thanked us sincerely.

As Elder Baxter and I continued our journey, we pondered that experience. We recalled the counsel given to a hopeless soul by Aaron, who said, “If thou wilt repent of all thy sins, and will bow down before God, and call on his name in faith, … then shalt thou receive the hope which thou desirest.”

Now, at this closing session of general conference, I too speak on repentance. I do so because the Lord has commanded His servants to cry repentance unto all people.  The Master has restored His gospel to bring joy to His children, and repentance is a crucial component of that gospel.

The doctrine of repentance is as old as the gospel itself. Biblical teachings from the books of Genesis to Revelation teach repentance. Lessons from Jesus Christ during His mortal ministry include these warnings: “The kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel” and “Except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.”

References to repentance are even more frequent in the Book of Mormon. To the people of ancient America, the Lord gave this commandment: “Again I say unto you, ye must repent, and be baptized in my name, and become as a little child, or ye can in nowise inherit the kingdom of God.”

With the Restoration of the gospel, our Savior has again stressed this doctrine. The word repent in any of its forms appears in 47 of the 138 sections of the Doctrine and Covenants!

Repent from Sin

What does it mean to repent? We begin with a dictionary’s definition that to repent is “to turn from sin … to feel sorrow [and] regret.” To repent from sin is not easy. But the prize is worth the price. Repentance needs to be done one step at a time. Humble prayer will facilitate each essential step. As prerequisites to forgiveness, there must first be recognition, remorse, then confession. “By this ye may know if a man repenteth of his sins—behold, he will confess them and forsake them.” Confession is to be made to the person who has been wronged. Confession should be sincere and not merely an admission of guilt after proof is evident. If many persons have been offended, confession should be made to all offended parties. Acts that may affect one’s standing in the Church or the right to its privileges should be confessed promptly to the bishop, whom the Lord has called as a common judge in Israel.

The next step is restitution—to repair damage done—if possible. Then come steps to resolve to do better and refrain from relapse—to repent “with full purpose of heart.” Thanks to the ransom paid by the Atonement of Jesus Christ, full forgiveness is given to the sinner who repents and remains free from sin. To the repentant soul, Isaiah said, “Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.”

The Lord’s imperative emphasis on repentance is evident as we read from section 19 of the Doctrine and Covenants: “I command you to repent—repent, lest I smite you by the rod of my mouth, and by my wrath, and by my anger, and your sufferings be sore—how sore you know not, how exquisite you know not, yea, how hard to bear you know not.

“For behold, I, God, have suffered these things for all, that they might not suffer if they would repent;

“But if they would not repent they must suffer even as I.”

While the Lord insists on our repentance, most people don’t feel such a compelling need. They include themselves among those who try to be good. They have no evil intent. Yet the Lord is clear in His message that all need to repent—not only from sins of commission but from sins of omission as well. Such is the case in His warning to parents: “Inasmuch as parents have children in Zion … that teach them not to understand the doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ the Son of the living God, and of baptism and the gift of the Holy Ghost … , the sin be upon the heads of the parents.”

Broader Meaning of the Word Repent

The doctrine of repentance is much broader than a dictionary’s definition. When Jesus said “repent,” His disciples recorded that command in the Greek language with the verb metanoeo. This powerful word has great significance. In this word, the prefix meta means “change.” The suffix relates to four important Greek terms: nous, meaning “the mind”; gnosis, meaning “knowledge”; pneuma, meaning “spirit”; 28 and pnoe, meaning “breath.”

Thus, when Jesus said “repent,” He asked us to change—to change our mind, knowledge, and spirit—even our breath. A prophet explained that such a change in one’s breath is to breathe with grateful acknowledgment of Him who grants each breath. King Benjamin said, “If ye should serve him who has created you … and is preserving you from day to day, by lending you breath … from one moment to another—I say, if ye should serve him with all your whole souls yet ye would be unprofitable servants.”

Yes, the Lord has commanded us to repent, to change our ways, to come unto Him, and be more like Him. This requires a total change. Alma so taught his son: “Learn wisdom in thy youth,” he said. “Learn in thy youth to keep the commandments of God. … Let all thy thoughts be directed unto the Lord; yea, let the affections of thy heart be placed upon the Lord forever.”

To repent fully is to convert completely to the Lord Jesus Christ and His holy work. Alma taught that concept when he posed these questions: “I ask of you, my brethren of the church, have ye spiritually been born of God? Have ye received his image in your countenances? Have ye experienced this mighty change in your hearts?” That change comes when we are “born again,” converted and focused upon our journey to the kingdom of God.

Fruits of Repentance

The fruits of repentance are sweet. Repentant converts find that the truths of the restored gospel govern their thoughts and deeds, shape their habits, and forge their character. They are more resilient and able to deny themselves of all ungodliness. Moreover, uncontrolled appetite, addiction to pornography or harmful drugs, unbridled passion, carnal desire, and unrighteous pride are diminished with complete conversion to the Lord and a determination to serve Him and to emulate His example. Virtue garnishes their thoughts, and self-confidence grows. Tithing is seen as a joyful and protective blessing, not as a duty or a sacrifice. Truth becomes more attractive, and things praiseworthy become more engaging.

Repentance is the Lord’s regimen for spiritual growth. King Benjamin explained that “the natural man is an enemy to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, and putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a child doth submit to his father.” 45 Brothers and sisters, that means conversion! Repentance is conversion! A repentant soul is a converted soul, and a converted soul is a repentant soul.

Repentance for Those Who Are Dead

Each living person can repent. But what about those who have died? They also have opportunities to repent. Scripture declares that “the faithful elders of this dispensation, when they depart from mortal life, continue their labors in the preaching of the gospel of repentance … among those who are … under the bondage of sin in the great world of the spirits of the dead.

“The dead who repent will be redeemed, through obedience to the ordinances of the house of God,

“And after they have paid the penalty of their transgressions, and are washed clean, [they] shall receive a reward according to their works.”

The Prophet Joseph Smith further revealed that “the earth will be smitten with a curse unless there is a welding link of some kind or other between the fathers and the children. … We without [our dead] cannot be made perfect; neither can they without us be made perfect. … [This] dispensation is now beginning to usher in, that a whole and complete and perfect union, and welding together of dispensations, and keys, and powers, and glories should take place.”

“Jesus wants me for a sunbeam”? Yes! And you too! He also wants us as bonding blacksmiths—creating celestial welding links—to curb the curse of family fragmentation. The earth was created and temples provided so that families can be together forever. Many, if not most, of us could repent and be converted to more temple and family history work for our ancestors. Thus, our repentance is necessary and essential for their repentance.

For all our kindred dead, to the 28-year-old woman mired in the swamp of sin, and to each one of us, I declare that the sweet blessing of repentance is possible. It comes through complete conversion to the Lord and His holy work.

I know that God lives. Jesus is the Christ. This is His Church. His prophet today is President Gordon B. Hinckley. I so testify in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

Discuss the article as a family. You can direct the conversation in any direction you wish. You might consider the following questions as you lead your discussion.

• What are the 4 different aspects of repentance that Elder Nelson mentioned in his talk?
• What are the steps of repentance?
• Discuss the broader meaning of the work “Repent”
• Based on the broader meaning of the word “Repent”, would consider repentance as periodic events, or as an ongoing process?
• What is something new you have learned about repentance after studying this conference talk?

Testify of the power of Repentance.

Optional Toppings:

canned pie filling
fresh berries
whipped cream
chocolate sauce
caramel sauce
lemon curd

Instructions:

Preheat oven to 375. Soften cream cheese if needed. With an electric mixer, beat cream cheese and sugar. Add in flour and baking powder and beat to combine. Then add in eggs, one at a time, lemon juice, and vanilla. Beat to combine.

Fill a muffin pan with cupcake liners and place one vanilla wafer at the bottom of each one. Divide batter between 12 muffin papers, filling each cup up to about 1/4 inch from the top. Bake for 15-18 minutes or until a toothpick comes out clean. They’ll puff way up during baking, but they’ll settle after being chilled.

When you take them out of the oven, place them on a cooling rack and let them cool completely. While they cool, they will sink down in the center. Don’t worry- that’s normal! It makes the perfect little well to fill up with the fruit filling. Before you top them, chill in the fridge for at least 4-6 hours or preferably over night. Then top and serve. You can be creative and top with whatever you like, like chocolate, caramel, lemon curd, whatever! Makes 12 cheesecakes.

Chocolate Chip Cookie Pie

Ingredients:

1 unbaked 9-inch pie crust, homemade or store-bought.
2 large eggs
1/2 C flour
1/2 C white granulated sugar
1/2 C packed brown sugar
3/4 C real butter, softened (1 1/2 sticks)
1 C chocolate chips (semi-sweet or dark works best, you might find milk too sweet)
1 C chopped pecans (if desired)

Vanilla ice cream, or sweetened whipped cream for serving
optional: chocolate sauce

Instructions:

Preheat oven to 325° F.

Beat eggs in large mixer bowl on high speed until foamy. Beat in flour, granulated sugar and brown sugar. Beat in butter. Stir in morsels and nuts. Spoon into pie shell.

Bake for 55 to 60 minutes or until knife inserted halfway between edge and center comes out clean. Cool on wire rack or serve slightly warmed. Serve with ice cream or whipped cream.

(Recipes taken from www.OurBestBites.com )

Scripture

 Matthew 28:19-20

19 – Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost:

20 - Teaching them to observe all things whatsoever I have commanded you: and, lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world. Amen.

Hymn

I Hope They Call Me on a Mission – Primary Songbook #169 or Called to Serve - Hymn #249

I Hope They Call Me on a Mission

1. I hope they call me on a mission
When I have grown a foot or two.
I hope by then I will be ready
To teach and preach and work as missionaries do.

2. I hope that I can share the gospel
With those who want to know the truth.
I want to be a missionary
And serve and help the Lord while I am in my youth.

1. Called to serve Him, heav’nly King of glory,
Chosen e’er to witness for his name,
Far and wide we tell the Father’s story,
Far and wide his love proclaim.

[Chorus]
Onward, ever onward, as we glory in his name;
Onward, ever onward, as we glory in his name;
Forward, pressing forward, as a triumph song we sing.
God our strength will be; press forward ever,
Called to serve our King.

2. Called to know the richness of his blessing—
Sons and daughters, children of a King—
Glad of heart, his holy name confessing,
Praises unto him we bring.

Lesson

*For Younger Children* Read “How Can I Be a Missionary Now?”. Discuss things we can all do to prepare to serve a mission some day. Watch the Mormon Messages Video “6 Brothers”. Testify of the importance of preparing to serve a mission.

Read “How Can I Be a Missionary Now?”, by Elder Russel M. Nelson (Friend, Nov. 2011)

How Can I Be a Missionary Now?

You can have “a pure heart and clean hands” (Alma 5:19).

The light of the Lord can beam from your eyes.

Whether full-time missionaries or members, we should all be good examples of the believers in Jesus Christ.

You can invite a friend to read the Book of Mormon. Explain that it is not a novel or a history book. It is another testament of Jesus Christ.

Many of our friends do not know they are welcome in our Church buildings. An invitation to attend a Sunday meeting with you or to participate in a Church activity will help to make visitors feel more comfortable.

Strive to enlarge your own circle of friendship.

Discuss things we can all do to prepare to serve a mission some day. (These may include reading and studying the scriptures, saying daily prayers, befriend others of different faiths, going to primary, etc.) 

Watch the following Mormon Messages Video “6 Brothers”

Testify of the importance of preparing to serve a mission.

*For Teenagers or Adults* Discuss the importance of preparing through scripture and gospel study. Make a list of ways in which family members can learn more about Church history and organization.  Watch the Mormon Messages Video “6 Brothers”. Testify of the importance of preparing to serve a mission.

Discuss how important it is for missionaries to know the scriptures and understand the organization and history of the Church.

One young man tells the following story about himself:

“It was about the third day of heavy tracting when I decided that I had better straighten things out with my companion. After all, what was he doing telling everyone that the Book of Mormon took place in America and that the Book of Mormon was a history of the people on the American continent? During our talk, my companion got me straightened out, and I realized that somewhere in my ‘learning’ I had neglected to get understanding. You may find this hard to believe, but I really didn’t know the background of the Book of Mormon.”

Make a list of ways in which family members can learn more about Church history and organization. These may include listening attentively in Sunday School classes, participating in seminary programs, talking with people about their Church callings, and reading books.

To help your family become familiar with the scriptures and better understand the principles of the gospel, you may wish to do some of the following:

1. Provide each family member with his own scriptures for study and marking.
2. Obtain a list of the scriptures that full-time missionaries memorize, and systematically become familiar with them or memorize them as a family.
3. Share testimonies in your home on Christmas Eve, Easter, or another special occasion.
4. Discuss the things that a full-time missionary would need to know about the gospel. Then ask family members to identify some of the areas in which they need to learn more. Set family or individual goals to learn more about the gospel. These goals might include establishing a more regular and effective scripture study program, having family prayer more regularly, paying more attention in Church meetings, and studying books on Church history and doctrine. Consider using films and videocassettes from your meetinghouse library.
5. In advance, assign each family member a topic or problem of interest to them, and have them use the Topical Guide to find scriptures that provide suggested solutions to the problems. Help family members see the value of using the scriptures in all of life’s experiences.
6. Arrange to have a recently returned missionary present a missionary discussion to your family.

Watch the following Mormon Messages Video “6 Brothers”

Testify of the importance of preparing to serve a mission.

(Recipes taken from www.TastyKitchen.com )

Scripture

D&C 45:71

71 – And it shall come to pass that the righteous shall be gathered out from among all nations, and shall come to Zion, singing with songs of everlasting joy.

Hymn

Hum Your Favorite Hymn – Primary Songbook #152 or Praise to the Lord the Almighty- Hymn #72 or Other Favorite Hymns/Songs

Hum Your Favorite Hymn

1. If on occasion you have found
Your language is in question,
Or ugly thoughts come to your mind,
Then here’s a good suggestion.

Just hum your favorite hymn,
Sing out with vigor and vim,
And you will find it clears your mind.
Hum your favorite hymn.

2. Before you say an angry word,
Remember you’ll regret it,
For once it’s said the harm is done,
And some folks won’t forget it.

Praise to the Lord the Almighty1. Praise to the Lord, the Almighty, the King of creation!
O my soul, praise him, for he is thy health and salvation!
Join the great throng,
Psaltery, organ and song,
Sounding in glad adoration!

2. Praise to the Lord! Over all things he gloriously reigneth.
Borne as on eagle wings, safely his Saints he sustaineth.
Hast thou not seen
How all thou needest hath been
Granted in what he ordaineth?

3. Praise to the Lord, who doth prosper thy way and defend thee.
Surely his goodness and mercy shall ever attend thee.
Ponder anew
What the Almighty can do,
Who with his love doth befriend thee.

4. Praise to the Lord! Oh, let all that is in me adore him!
All that hath breath, join with Abraham’s seed to adore him!
Let the “amen”
Sum all our praises again,
Now as we worship before him.

Lesson

*For Younger Children*  Sing and Dance to favorite songs. Discuss the power of music. Watch/Listen to “I Am a Child of God” by The Mormon Tabernacle Choir. Testify of the power of uplifting music.

Sing and Dance to favorite songs.

Play, sing, or have family members name several of their favorite songs. These may range from hymns to classical selections to currently popular songs.

Point out that music has great power over us; some music makes us want to dance, some makes us want to march, some makes us want to sit and think. Have the family participate by marching to some marching music and dancing to some dancing music.

Discuss the power of music.

Have family members analyze how each of the songs they have named makes them feel. Which of the pieces make them feel closer to our Father in Heaven, and which ones would not make them feel close to him? Are there any that would not be pleasing to him?

Point out that music has great power to inspire us and to bring us closer to our Father in Heaven and that it also has the power to encourage evil thoughts and acts. Give examples of some of your favorite songs (Hymns or other songs) that bring you closer to Heavenly Father. Explain how these songs help you feel the spirit.

Suggest that your family adopt a standard of singing, playing, or listening only to music that is pleasing to the Lord.

Watch the following video of The Mormon Tabernacle Choir singing a familiar primary song. Encourage your young children to sing along with them and pay attention to how they feel.

Testify of  power of uplifting music.

*For Teenagers or Adults* Sing family member’s  favorite songs. Discuss the power of music. Watch the video of Jenny Oaks Baker, Grammy Award winning violinst. Testify of the power of uplifting music.

Sing favorite songs.

Have each family member take a turn to name one of their favorite songs. These may range from hymns to classical selections to currently popular songs. Together as a family sing, or listen to the song

Discuss the power of music.

Point out that music has great power over us. Some music makes us happy and makes us feel like we want to dance. Some music makes us sad. Some music makes us think. Some music drives the spirit away, and some brings the spirit into our lives.

Have family members analyze how each of the songs they have named makes them feel. Which of the pieces make them feel closer to our Father in Heaven, and which ones would not make them feel close to him? Are there any that would not be pleasing to him?

Point out that music has great power to inspire us and to bring us closer to our Father in Heaven and that it also has the power to encourage evil thoughts and acts. Give examples of some of your favorite songs (Hymns or other songs) that bring you closer to Heavenly Father. Explain how these songs help you feel the spirit.

Suggest that your family adopt a standard of singing, playing, or listening only to music that is pleasing to the Lord.

Watch the following video as Jenny Oaks Baker, Grammy Award Winning violinist, explains how the the power of music is blessing in hers and her family’s life.

Testify of  power of uplifting music.

Treat

Simply Strawberry Crumble or Healthy, Impossibly Easy Banana “Ice Cream”

Simple Strawberry Crumble

Ingredients:

1½ cup Strawberries
½ Lemon, Juiced
3 Tablespoons Flour, Divided
1 cup Old Fashioned Oats
2 Tablespoons Brown Sugar
1 teaspoon Ground Cinnamon
⅛ teaspoons Salt
2 Tablespoons Grapeseed Or Canola Oil
2 Tablespoons Maple Syrup
2 teaspoons Vanilla Extract

Instructions:

Preheat oven to 350ºF. Spray 4 half-cup ramekins with nonstick cooking spray. In a small bowl, mix the strawberries, lemon juice and 1 tablespoon of flour until blended. Set aside.

In a medium bowl, mix oats, the remaining flour, brown sugar, cinnamon and salt together until mixed. In a separate bowl, whisk oil, maple syrup and vanilla. Stream into the oat mixture and stir with a fork until all the liquid is well-incorporated into the dry. Spoon 1/3 cup of the topping ingredients into the strawberry mixture and stir.

Divide the strawberry mixture evenly among the ramekins and divide the oat mixture evenly on top of the strawberries.
Bake in the preheated oven for 25-30 minutes until the strawberries are tender and the topping is golden brown and crisp.

Note: Swap out the strawberries for any fruit that you like. A mixture of various berries would be delicious!

Healthy, Impossibly Easy Banana “Ice Cream”

Ingredients: 

3 whole Bananas

Instructions:

Peel the bananas and cut them into 1/2 slices. Place them on a plate and freeze overnight.

Let bananas sit for about 5 minutes so it’s easier to get them off the plate.

Slide them in a blender and puree until smooth. This took me a while, but be patient!

Serve immediately and enjoy!

(Recipes taken from www.TastyKitchen.com)

Scripture

John 11:25-26

25- Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live:

26- And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?

Hymn

He Died, That We Might Live Again – Primary Songbook #65 or He is Risen! – Hymn #199

He Died, That We Might Live Again

He died that we might live again,
Lord Jesus, our Redeemer true.
He died on Calv’ry’s lonely hill.
His life he gave for me and you.
He rose from the grave on Easter morn,
Our Savior and our King.
He showed his love for all mankind.
For his great love, give thanks and sing.
Rejoice! Rejoice! and sing, sing, sing.

He is Risen!

1. He is risen! He is risen!
Tell it out with joyful voice.
He has burst his three days’ prison;
Let the whole wide earth rejoice.
Death is conquered; man is free.
Christ has won the victory.

2. Come with high and holy hymning;
Chant our Lord’s triumphant lay.
Not one darksome cloud is dimming
Yonder glorious morning ray,
Breaking o’er the purple east,
Symbol of our Easter feast.

3. He is risen! He is risen!
He hath opened heaven’s gate.
We are free from sin’s dark prison,
Risen to a holier state.
And a brighter Easter beam
On our longing eyes shall stream.

Lesson

*For Younger Children* Explain and discuss what Jesus did for us at Easter time. Talk about the importance of the Atonement. Testify of the Atonement and the true meaning of Easter.

Preparation: Bring a picture of someone you love that has died. Prepare three word strips that say “Suffered for our sins,” “Resurrection,” and “Atonement.”

Testify of the Atonement and what it means to you. Testify of the true meaning of Easter.

*For Teenagers or Adults* Read Matthew 26:36-45. Discuss D&C  19:16-18. Watch “None Were With Him” – a powerful Mormon Messages Video on Jesus Christ’s Atonement. Testify the Atonement and the true meaning of Easter.

Read aloud Matthew 26:36–45.

36 Then cometh Jesus with them unto a place called^aGethsemane, and saith unto the disciples, Sit ye here, while I go and ^bpray yonder.

37 And he took with him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, and^abegan to be sorrowful and very heavy.

38 Then saith he unto them, My soul is ^aexceeding sorrowful, even unto death: tarry ye here, and ^bwatch with me.

39 And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and ^aprayed, saying, O my ^bFather, if it be possible, let this ^ccup pass from me: nevertheless not as I ^dwill, but as ^ethou ^fwilt.

40 And he cometh unto the disciples, and findeth them ^aasleep, and saith unto Peter, What, ^bcould ye not watch with me one hour?

41 ^aWatch and ^bpray, that ye enter not into ^ctemptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.

42 He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, thy ^awill be done.

43 And he came and found them asleep again: for their eyes were heavy.

44 And he left them, and went away again, and prayed the third time, saying the same words.

45 Then cometh he to his disciples, and saith unto them, Sleep on now, and take your rest: behold, the hour is at hand, and the Son of man is ^abetrayed into the hands of sinners.

Then read and discuss Doctrine and Covenants 19:16–18.

16 For behold, I, God, have ^asuffered these things for all, that they might not ^bsuffer if they would ^crepent;

17 But if they would not repent they must ^asuffer even as I;

18 Which ^asuffering caused myself, even God, the greatest of all, to tremble because of pain, and to bleed at every pore, and to suffer both body and spirit—and would that I might ^bnot drink the bitter cup, and shrink—

Watch the following Mormon Messages Video on the Atonement and the true meaning of Easter. Then discuss and share what the Atonement means to each of you, personally.

Testify of the Atonement and what it means to you. Testify of the true meaning of Easter.

Treat

Strawberry Pretzel Squares or 3-Step Mini Cheesecake Baskets

Strawberry Pretzel Squares

Ingredients:

2cups finely crushed pretzels
1/2cup sugar, divided
2/3cup butter or margarine, melted
1-1/2pkg. (8 oz. each) PHILADELPHIA Cream Cheese, softened
2Tbsp. milk
1cup thawed COOL WHIP Whipped Topping
2cups boiling water
1pkg. (6 oz.) JELL-O Strawberry Flavor Gelatin
1-1/2cups cold water
4cups fresh strawberries, sliced

Instructions:

HEAT oven to 350°F.

MIX pretzel crumbs, 1/4 cup sugar and butter; press onto bottom of 13×9-inch pan. Bake 10 min. Cool.

BEAT cream cheese, remaining sugar and milk until blended. Stir in COOL WHIP; spread over crust. Refrigerate.

ADD boiling water to gelatin mix in large bowl; stir 2 min. until completely dissolved. Stir in cold water. Refrigerate 1-1/2 hours or until thickened.

STIR berries into gelatin; spoon over cream cheese layer. Refrigerate 3 hours or until firm.

3-Step Mini Cheesecake Baskets

Ingredients:

2pkg. (8 oz. each) PHILADELPHIA Cream Cheese, softened
1/2cup sugar
1/2tsp. vanilla
2 eggs
12 NILLA Wafers
1-1/2cups BAKER’S ANGEL FLAKE Coconut, tinted green
36small jelly beans
12pieces shoestring licorice (4 inch each)

Instructions:

HEAT oven to 350°F.

BEAT cream cheese, sugar and vanilla with mixer on medium speed until well blended. Add eggs; beat just until blended.

PLACE wafer on bottom of each of 12 paper-lined muffin cups. Spoon cream cheese mixture evenly over wafers.

BAKE 20 min. or until centers are almost set. Cool. Refrigerate at least 2 hours. Top evenly with coconut and jelly beans just before serving. Bend each licorice piece, then insert both ends into each cheesecake to resemble the handle of a basket. Keep refrigerated.

(Recipes taken from www.KraftRecipes.com)